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As an artist, facing rejection can feel like a punch to the gut. It’s easy to spiral into self-doubt and start questioning your talent, your worth, or even your purpose. But before you let that black hole of negativity pull you in, remember that you're not alone—and there's a way out. I asked different members of the pole community for their thoughts on rejection, and I’ve compiled some advice here for you, for us, and for anyone else who would benefit from a few words of wisdom and positive influences. I won’t say it’s going to be easy to use this guide, but it’ll be worth it in the end. 

Rejection is a natural part of any creative path. Think of it as a stepping stone rather than a roadblock. Each “no” is a nudge toward improvement and growth. Embrace the journey, bumps and all, because it’s what shapes you into a stronger, more resilient artist. 

Instead of letting rejection define your worth, see it as an opportunity to refine your work. Ask for feedback if possible—constructive criticism can be a valuable tool for growth. Remember, every great artist has been where you are now, getting rejected. Every artist worth their salt was rejected at first, and they’ve got the battle scars to prove it. 

When self-doubt strikes, it’s time to shake things up! Try a new medium, experiment with different techniques, or even take a break to recharge. Sometimes, stepping away and gaining perspective is all you need to reignite your creative spark. When in doubt, rejuvenate your routine, whether that means taking a break for a while or trying a new style of dance. 

Going through rejection alone can be tough, so buddy up with a fellow artist or join a supportive community. Sharing experiences and encouraging each other can turn a negative experience into a bonding moment—and who knows, you might find inspiration in someone else’s story! 

With whatever that means to you. If laughter is the best medicine for you, go for it and chuckle it up. For me, it’s the ability to feel my sadness. I allow myself to be sad and to take in my emotions; feeling sad is totally valid, especially if this was an audition you thought you were going to ace. leila_la_lotus (Instagram) elaborates, “I just allow myself to feel sad. Try to do self care things like take a hot bath, yoga, dance, or give myself permission to go to bed early. I also do a lot of journaling working through my feelings and ‘challenging my negative thoughts’ journal prompts. I fell [sic] you. It is hard.” In short, give yourself grace to be human and welcome your self care practices.  

Similar to point #3, maybe it’s time to reframe your perspective or style. Try focusing on smaller details when rehearsing dance - like flexibility or strength. Sometimes seen as “boring” or not worthwhile, these are both important factors in pole dance and burlesque performance that can help take a step away from the artistic approaches for dance and the audition circuit, and just focus back on the basics of the art that will surely improve your skills. 

The ultimate cure for rejection blues? Keep creating! Whether it’s a doodle, a sketch, or a masterpiece, every piece you make is proof that you’re resilient and passionate. Don’t let rejection stop you—let it fuel you to create even more. Be you. Create. Express your deepest desires through your art. Don’t let rejection stop you; let it feed your hunger for more. hannahbellepinup writes, “[I get over rejection by] remembering that there are other opportunities out there, and the right people will love you. Easier said than done bc [sic] rejection stings especially when you wanted it badly or thought you had a good chance. I try to always remember even the greatest artists have faced rejection and you are one step ahead of most bc [sic] a lot of people are too scared to put themselves out there.” So absolutely well said, my friend.