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Pole dancing is an extraordinary art form that requires dedication, practice, and passion. Yet, as much as we love it, it’s important to recognize that life doesn’t stop for pole. For many of us, balancing pole with work, family, social lives, and other responsibilities is an ongoing challenge.

This particular post comes after I saw a meme with this general saying: “10 years from now, people won’t remember where you worked, how much money you made, or who your friends and family were, but they will remember the cool moves you were able to perform.” 

And this really got to me because pole is an expensive hobby. A very expensive hobby. Not everyone has 24/7 unlimited time and funds to practice; people have to go to work to afford this insanely expensive hobby to begin with. Further, people have kids. Friends. Social lives. And these types of inane statements make people feel worthless because they dare to spend their time focusing on something besides the craft of pole dancing. 

If you’ve ever felt inadequate because you don’t have endless time or resources to dedicate to pole, this is your reminder that you are enough. The pole community is made up of individuals with diverse journeys, and every path deserves recognition and respect. Unfortunately, some studios and marketing messages in the pole world can make you feel like you’re not doing enough. They may push the idea that you need to constantly create new showcase videos, attend every class, or invest in expensive programs to be successful. These messages can be discouraging, especially when they ignore the realities of people’s lives.

Take a moment to celebrate your successes outside of pole. Whether it’s earning a promotion, completing a degree, raising a family, or simply getting through a tough week, these achievements are monumental. They reflect your strength, perseverance, and commitment to living a full and balanced life. Pole is an important part of your story, but it doesn’t define your worth or success.

Take a moment to celebrate your successes outside of pole. Whether it’s earning a promotion, completing a degree, raising a family, or simply getting through a tough week, these achievements are monumental. They reflect your strength, perseverance, and commitment to living a full and balanced life. Pole is an important part of your story, but it doesn’t define your worth or success.

Studios and instructors who genuinely care about their students recognize the importance of meeting people where they are. They celebrate every step of progress and understand that not everyone has the same opportunities. If you’ve ever felt like you don’t measure up because your studio or the broader pole community seems to push unattainable standards, know this: your journey is valid. Whether you’ve had one chance to perform in a showcase or none at all, you’re still a valuable and worthy member of this community.

Remember that your value isn’t measured by the number of showcase videos you’ve created or the amount of time you spend in the studio. You are more than enough simply for showing up for yourself in whatever way you can. If you’re navigating a packed schedule, be proud of the effort you’re putting into both pole and the rest of your life.

In a world where it’s easy to feel pressure to do more or be more, let’s shift the narrative to one of support and empowerment. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, let’s celebrate the incredible diversity of experiences that make our community strong. You belong here, just as you are, and your unique journey adds value to the pole world and beyond.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by expectations, try setting small, achievable goals that work for you. Maybe it’s carving out a few minutes to stretch at home, celebrating a new trick you’ve mastered, or simply finding joy in movement without any pressure to perform. Every effort counts, and every victory—on or off the pole—deserves recognition.

Let’s continue to build a pole community that uplifts and inspires. Celebrate yourself and others, not just for what you accomplish on the pole but for everything you bring to the world. Together, we can create a space where everyone feels seen, valued, and empowered.